Lucy has been incredibly fussy the past couple days and I really couldn't take it any longer, so while she's crying it out in her crib, I'm going to try to ignore it for a few minutes and brain dump:
**Lucy used to only be able to sleep when swaddled nice and tight. Now, she won't sleep if she's swaddled and spends her whole time just grunting and moving to try and escape it until she's screaming and ends up with the blankets over her face. The problem is that if she's not swaddled, she likes to move her little arms around like crazy, especially when she's tired, to keep her awake. Moms- what do you do when this happens?!
**My toe cracks really loudly every time I go up a step, so when I have to go upstairs to check on Lucy, I'm kind of a dead giveaway.
**I usually give Lucy her medicine. It's a lot and it smells nasty so I can only imagine how it tastes. She usually screams and fights it the whole time I give it to her. Last night I had a meeting for YW's and Ryan had to give her the medicine. She smiled and cooed the whole time. I don't get it.
**Has there ever been a black person on the Bachelor/ette? I can't think of one. Deep thoughts, I know.
**I still haven't taken Lucy back to church yet (combination of everyone at church being sick as well as Lucy's reflux/tummy troubles) and I actually had one person from my ward ask me if I was still in the ward, and another one ask me if I was still active.
**Another mom at church questioned when she was finally going to get to meet and hold Lucy. This was asked as she wiped her child's very snotty nose with her bare hand. My answer was 'never.'
**Now I'm hoping that the people I'm talking about at church don't read this blog. I'm 98% sure they don't.
**The doctor wants me to re-introduce foods this week to figure out what's actually bothering Lucy, but the problem is that for some odd reason she has had tummy troubles yesterday and today! What the heck!?!
**One of these days I will hopefully have something to post about besides just Lucy (and her tummy), but that's kind of what my world revolves around 24/7 these days and nothing else. And in case you were wondering, she cried for 7 minutes and has been sleeping for 46. But now she's crying again. I better go get her....
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I second the pacifier harness...I have the hardest time listening to a baby cry in the car.
As for the swaddling, if she doesn't like it anymore have you tried letting her just be out of the swaddle or one arm out. Jackson never liked to be swaddled. He would kick and grunt and get really mad until he got one arm out, so eventually I just let him and never swaddled him at all. (confession, I did also let him sleep on his tummy, so his arms didn't fling about and he loved it. He cried the first few times I laid him down this way...I think just because it seemed so weird and different, but he really seemed to like it after a while, plus he slept like a champ).
As for her hearing you coming do you have white noise in Lucy's room? I would try turning on a fan (but not a quiet ceiling fan) or buy a white noise machine (you can buy them at walmart or target), they cut out the noise from the rest of the house. We always have a fan running in the room where kids are sleeping, for the noise, not so much the air. :)
As for the medicine, don't feel bad, kids all have their "good" moments. Ryan isn't any more special than you. Or it might be that his arms are just new and fresh and different after you have been with her all day. :)
Black. No. But it is funny there hasn't been. You really made me stop and think about this one for a minute. ha!
As for not going back to church...Do NOT let anyone make you feel guilty!!! No one knows what you are going through or what is best for your baby. No one. Everyone can just get over you not being there. Lucy's health is far more important than making people feel comfortable with your church attendance. With Jackson it took me about 3 months to get back to church. Who stinkin' cares?! You aren't going inactive, sometimes you just have to deal with life. You are perfectly fine.
As for anyone in your ward reading this...well maybe it would be okay so that they would know wiping their child's nose with their bare hands isn't okay. I just keep thinking about all the people she probably shook hands with after that. I bet all she did was wipe it with a wet wipe (no sanitizer and call it good). yikes!
I am sorry that Lucy has been having a few rough days again!!! I hope that you can get things figured out and re introducing food goes smoothly.
Oh, and 7 minutes is fine if you want to get her, but you can feel free to go 10-15 with crying it out. I feel like sometimes it can take Stella two 10-15 minute sessions of crying it out and putting a pacifier back in her mouth to get back to sleep. But I don't know her schedule and I don't know how her tummy is feeling...so this is strictly up to you. seriously, a mom knows their own child better than anyone else (so I am no expert with Lucy).
Lastly, I LOVE your stinkin' guts! I hope things get easier! You are a great mom. No one knows what they are doing, we are all just guessing and trying to do our best, so try not to worry.
Whoa, crazy novel. Sorry about that!
Haha.. this made me laugh out loud. Especially when I read the wiping the snotty nose part... I may or may not be guilty of doing that as well but I don't think I have ever done it while asking to hold a little baby :) Maybe Lucy is just a fussy baby?? I'm so sorry you have a tough one to start off with... at least she is beautiful! :)
Um, a couple of things.
1) I had a friend that said she taped her baby's pacifier to her face. I think she was joking, but when Everett still used a pacifier I considered trying it out. I'm joking, kind of. And I didn't end up trying, but you could and let me know?
2) Ev has maybe gone to church four times in his seven month life. I kind of think you should keep them away from the flu factory as long as possible. Seriously that place is swarming with bugs. But that's just me.
3) I really hope that this is not the case with you, but I was eating literally NOTHING for months on end after having both of my boys and it never helped. They were still fussy and gassy. They both just grew out of it. Maybe she'll grow out of it soon too? I'll pray for that!
4) My ankle cracks when I walk up the stairs. I'd make an awful spy.
5) Miss you and have been thinking about you lots lately.
I let Tommy sleep on his tummy bcuz he would only sleep for like 5 min on his back. Try a loud fan in her room so she doesn't hear you when you come check on her. Also I would give Tommy a bottle at night of 1/2 breast milk 1/2 formula or sometimes I would do straight formula because formula makes them sleep longer and also its just nice to know that they are getting enough food because when you breastfeed you don't always know if they are getting enough. I'm all about breastfeeding and I think you should keep doing it but I know that some of my friends had low milk supplies and their babies were fussy all the time because they were hungry. Anyways just some thoughts, i hope things get better. Tommy was a way fussy baby too but once he figured out how to fall asleep on his own and started taking good naps he got better. Good luck Britt I feel your pain!
Ditto what michelle and pretty much everyone else has said
Wow! Everyone wrote really long comments! I don't think I have much to add. You're doing great! It's amazing how much stress and concern a baby can cause. :) Love you lots!
Brittney,
**I'll start working on the baby pacifier harness this is what I've come up with so far:
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**Just let her move her arms she's gotta learn that when she moves around she won't be able to sleep.
**Try to position your foot in a way so that you don't have to step on your popping toe. Or, go up the stairs backwards and just step on your heels.
**Don't take it personally Ryan probably did it while watching sports so she was distracted.
**Yes, there was a black women on the bachelor a few years ago...but she didn't last long.
**Don't worry about it. This happens all the time with moms.
**I hope that lady doesn't read your blog. :)
**Oh wait...you had the same thought, haha.
**Yeah that's weird. I don't get it.
**Don't worry, if people get bored of hearing about Lucy stomach they call always scroll down 20 pictures for the show that never gets old...
Our babies are totally twins--seriously, Brittney, I relate to every thing you write about her.
It DOES get better! And when it does, you will love, love it. Hang in there. Just keep telling yourself that this is only a season in your life.
For me, my diet helped way more than any medicine. Sometimes, she still has rashes or acts upset with her tummy, but I've learned to just keep doing what I'm doing and they usually go away. We just have sensitive souls as our daughters, and I'm sure that will be more of a blessing for them in the long haul.
We were also in the same boat with the swaddling. Get a sleep sack, ASAP. Then start by keeping both the arms inside. Bit by bit (I started with naps) you can move one arm out and then gradually the other. We have done it very gradually. Right now, Clara naps with both arms out but I keep one in at night--I'm a bit paranoid. Oh, and I put socks on her hands every time she sleeps--that way if her arms are going every which way, she still won't scratch herself. She seems to sleep better with those on.
And if your baby is anything like mine (which all your posts so far prove them are the EXACT SAME), she will not eat any more than she wants. I've just accepted that Clara will only eat until satisfied, and nothing more. She'll be a skinny baby, but at least she's still growing!
You're a good, good momma. Going through all of this will make you REALLY appreciate it when things get better and you'll find yourself having more and more "good days" until there are suddenly more good than bad. Hold in there and text me/call me when you're really struggling!
I read it! AND I don't blame you for not coming to church.
Pacifier in the car problem = Duct tape it to her face. FIXED!
Oh the joys of motherhood and the wonderful things people say at church.
One thing that worked for me is putting a fan in my kids room so that nobody wakes them up. Its probably a disservice to them but they slept great as babies.
I totally wrote a comment like a week ago but it didn't show up. I basically said what everyone else did. And you are a great mom! It will get better!
And Dan and I talked multiple times after each of our babies were born that they should have headgear-like pacifiers for babies to keep those suckers in!
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